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Have a happy, healthy, and joyful weekend!

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2021-10-11 17:39

The weekend is here, This Week’s Share-- Four Signs That Your Home Is Getting Better and Better ！

　　 First, health is regarded as extremely important.

　　My family is very large, with many siblings. Whenever my friends find out, they always exclaim, “You must’ve had a really tough childhood, right?” But I always reply, “Not at all—when I think back to those days, all I remember are happy moments.”

　　After being asked so many times, I once curiously asked my mom, “Raising kids is so expensive—how did you and Dad manage to bring all of us up?”

　　My mom said to me back then, “As long as everyone in the family stays healthy, a home will always endure.”

　　Indeed, health is like the foundation of a home—without it, everything else is just empty talk.

　　My older brother, who’s a doctor, often takes his family along on health‑preserving routines, and the rest of us jokingly tease him: at just in his thirties, he already lives like someone in their sixties.

　　He told us to take good care of ourselves—not just for our own sake, but for the whole family as well.

　　 Don’t wait until your health is in trouble to realize that material possessions cannot buy you good health, and without it, no matter how many worldly things a family may have, they will never find true happiness.

　　 Second, when problems arise, we refrain from blaming and rally together to tackle difficulties.

　　We often say, “When the family is harmonious, all things prosper.” Why does family harmony lead to success in all endeavors? Because when family members live in peace and unity, without constant bickering, they don’t waste time on domestic conflicts. As a result, each member feels happier and can devote more energy and motivation to their work. Moreover, open communication and frequent dialogue help prevent one from straying onto misguided or harmful paths.

　　 And to ensure family harmony, the most important thing is to: criticize less and unite more.

　　I once heard a story: Two families lived next door to each other. One was constantly bickering, while the other was always filled with laughter and joy, growing happier with each passing day. One day, the family that argued all the time went over to their neighbors to ask for the secret to maintaining harmony in their own home.

　　It turns out that in the neighbor’s household, where there are no arguments, whenever someone makes a mistake and it leads to some problem, the family members never blame one another. Instead, they sincerely reflect on their own actions, acknowledging that if they had done things just a little better, the error would not have occurred. Then, working together, they set out to resolve the issue.

Sometimes, as soon as words of blame are spoken, a sense of right and wrong emerges, instantly pitting two people against each other and causing the feeling of love to vanish.

　　This will only make the person who made the mistake feel worse or provoke their defensiveness, preventing them from recognizing their own errors. It is of no help whatsoever in resolving the issue.

　　A harmonious family may seem no different from countless others in everyday life—sharing three meals a day and dealing with the little, everyday squabbles. Yet when challenges arise, every member knows: as a family, we must stand united as one. Unity is like the roof of a home; with it, even the fiercest storms can be weathered.

　　Third, family members should maintain a sense of boundaries.

　　So-called a sense of boundaries means knowing what’s acceptable and what isn’t—nodding when you should, and saying no when you need to.

　　It’s fine to love your child, but at the right moments, you should let go, allowing them to learn to think for themselves and not deprive them of opportunities to grow.

　　You can be there for your partner, but don’t always try to dominate; learn to listen, accept, and respect their perspective.

　　It’s fine to help relatives, but we should support those in need without enabling laziness, and offer emergency assistance without perpetuating poverty. If the person themselves doesn’t make an effort to improve their situation, no amount of help will be effective.

　　In the vast expanse of the universe, being able to step through the same door and become family must surely be the result of some special kind of fate—one that is not a pretext for excessive demands, but rather a reason to cherish one another.

　　A sense of boundaries is like the walls of a home, enabling family members to coexist without overstepping one another’s space, fostering comfort and harmony.

　　 Fourth, live a fulfilling life of your own, ensuring that children have the opportunity to thrive and that the elderly have reliable support.

　　When each family member fulfills their own responsibilities and does their part well, the household will be harmonious, and all matters will proceed smoothly.

　　I once came across a reader who described her family situation: her husband is like a perpetual child, spending all day doing nothing but indulging in food, drink, and entertainment; she herself isn’t in great health, has no steady job, and, with a son in junior high, often relies on financial support from her parents.

　　She places great importance on her son’s education, doing her best to send him to the best schools, yet he is rebellious and disobedient, with dismal grades. The family bickers every few days—small arguments every three days, major ones every five. In the end, she asked, “I just don’t know why we’ve turned our home into this.”

　　This may stem from a misalignment of familial responsibilities: the couple, in the prime of their lives, have failed to make the contributions their family deserves; meanwhile, the parents, already at an age when they should be enjoying their retirement, still bear the burden of supporting their children, inevitably giving rise to resentment. Under such circumstances, the children struggle to find positive role models, and it is likely that they will also find it difficult to develop a genuine enjoyment of learning.

　　When parents live fulfilling lives of their own, their children can grow up in a healthy family environment, and the elderly can retire with peace of mind and dignity. Even if a family cannot achieve great wealth or high social status, it can still move forward steadily along a positive path.

　　When each family member fulfills their role, it’s like the windows of a home. By upholding this principle, gentle breezes will waft in and sunlight will pour through, banishing the shadows that linger within.

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