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2021-10-11 17:39

This Week’s Share--- One’s attitude toward family is the truest reflection of their character.

Last week, at our class reunion, Ah Wei initially won unanimous praise from all the old classmates present.

I heard that after graduation, he became a young entrepreneur and made a good living, standing out among our old classmates for his warmth and thoughtfulness. He took charge of ordering for everyone, carefully asking about each person’s preferences and dietary restrictions. As we caught up, he remained polite and gracious, even kindly stepping in to shield the few of us girls from drinks—affable yet impeccably courteous.

But in the middle of it, he took a phone call that startled everyone present. At first, everything was fine, but after just a few words, he burst out, “Why are you so annoying?” and “When will I have to get your permission to handle things?”… It was his wife calling.

After slamming down the phone in a huff, Ah Wei turned back to us with a grin, offering toasts and exchanging pleasantries, leaving the atmosphere momentarily very awkward.

An old classmate told me: “Awei may seem successful on the surface, but his business has been struggling these past few years, and his attitude toward his family has grown increasingly poor. He does keep in touch with us from time to time, but every time we see how he treats his family, we steer clear.”

I once came across this saying: Politeness toward strangers and outsiders may simply be a form of worldly tact and sophistication, whereas reserving your good spirits for those closest to you is the kind of upbringing that runs deep in your bones.

One’s attitude toward family is the truest reflection of their character. If one treats family poorly, it not only tarnishes how others perceive them but also rebounds, undermining their career and luck.

I once read a little story: There was a little boy who always lost his temper. His father told him that whenever he felt like losing his temper, he should drive a nail into the fence with a hammer. On the very first day, the boy hammered in more than thirty nails.

In the days that followed, the little boy tried to control his emotions, and the number of nails he hammered into the fence gradually began to decrease. Seeing his son’s change, the father said, “From now on, if you can go an entire day without getting angry, I’ll let you pull out one nail from the fence.”

Not long after, the little boy had pulled out all the nails. His father said to him earnestly, “You see, though the nails are gone, there are still so many tiny holes left in the fence. When you lose your temper with others, your words are like those nails—they leave scars on their hearts. No matter how many times you say you’re sorry, those scars will remain forever.”

We, too, often make the same mistakes as this little boy. When it comes to our family, we frequently lose control of our emotions, snap at them, and say things that hurt. Afterwards, we regret it but refuse to swallow our pride and apologize, assuming the matter will simply fade away.

We dare to lash out at our family because, deep down, we assume they will always forgive us. Yet once harm is done, the wounds remain—no amount of making amends may ever be enough.

When relationships begin to fray, it’s often because of negative emotions. Don’t let familiarity give you license to be reckless; don’t let closeness lead you to hurt others.

Everyone is working hard, but the most basic responsibility is not to take out your frustrations on those who love you.

We often unconsciously bring home the fatigue, hardships, and frustrations we face outside, yet we forget that our family members are also working hard to make a living—they’re hardly any easier off than we are. Moreover, once we vent our negative emotions on them, the difficulties we encounter won’t improve in the slightest.

No matter how strange and bewildering the world outside may be, home should always be that sanctuary that heals you.

I recall a long-standing regret that an old friend has never been able to let go of: one year, when he returned home, a minor disagreement with his father led him to snap at him. In a fit of pique, he left without so much as saying goodbye. A week later, his father passed away unexpectedly—leaving them never to see each other one last time.

Only when it’s too late—when we’ll never see each other again—do we realize, through regret and tears, that while we still had each other, we should have spent every moment not sulking or throwing tantrums, but simply cherishing the time we shared.

In this world, only family can love us unconditionally and without expecting anything in return. When it comes to our family, let’s cultivate more gratitude and greater understanding. When you can speak kindly, do so; when you can let things go, don’t dwell on them.

Life is both long and fleeting. Often, we assume that partings are far off in the future—yet in the blink of an eye, they may become permanent farewells. So, while there’s still time, while everything is still within reach, cherish and love your family.

May we all show our very best to our families, for they deserve it most.

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